Big book resentment inventory

Breaking down step four of aa alcoholics anonymous jason. The big book explains that we must make a list that includes all our resentments we have and have ever had, an account of sexual conduct and our fears. If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that you resent, you will be free. One object is to disclose damaged or unsalable goods, to get rid of them promptly and without regret.

Read read of step 4 resentments in the big book the final 4 paragraphs, pp. Home read the big book and twelve steps and twelve traditions alcoholics anonymous alcoholics anonymous this is the fourth edition of the big book, the basic text for alcoholics anonymous. The big book then remains silent on the significance of the resultsin other words what to do with this information. Big book of alcoholics anonymous large print or hard cover recommended and the. Resentment in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and. There is a section in the big book that is similar to what wright and james have observed.

The big book coverage of step 4 is about being honest and admitting to ones faults, weaknesses, defects. Nor can i believe it took me this long to really get the message. As an emotion, anger arises from a perception that one has been intentionally wronged. There is a detailed instruction sheet that goes with the step 4 inventory forms, from the workshop. This will take you to the official website of overeaters anonymous. Though our decision was a vital and crucial step, it could have little permanent effect unless at once followed by a strenuous effort to face, and to be rid of, the things in ourselves which had been blocking us. So, making sure that we know how to handle this offender is of key importance. If you are interested in overeaters anonymous, please click on the image to the left. Download pamphlets and handouts to use in big book group sessions our workbook companion to alcoholics anonymous 12 steps of recovery from alcoholism and addiction is called steps by the big book. The twelve steps of overeaters anonymous may help you when all other methods have failed. No attention is given to the positive qualities of the person taking a selfinventory, yet it is most important to remember our good qualities while dealing with the negative ones. It is painful to see the mess i have made of my life. Fears read from bottom of page 67 through 68 of the big book before beginning. People father step mother step sisters step brothers step aunts uncles cousins clergy police lawyers judges doctors employers employees coworkers in.

Big book awakening 4th step workshop resentment examples and worksheets 122006 columns 14 to download the most current versions of these worksheets go to. In the resentment inventory, dont write across, do it in columns, i. Originally introduced in the big book of alcoholics anonymous, the fourth. If you are interested in how the big book of alcoholics anonymous might help in your journey through overeaters anonymous, please click on the image to the left. Step 2 came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity assignment. There are three separate inventories suggested by the big book, and each 4th step inventory worksheet has an additional page you can print for more space. The woman quoted above in the big book discovered another way to end her most deepseated resentment. Steps by the big book step 4 resentments steps by the. If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for that person or the thing that you resent, you will be free. Four kinds of moral inventory the national association. Worksheets are the primary purpose group big, 12 step workbook, first step work, aas 12 steps including powerful, 12 steps in 12 weeks oa big book study format, the twelve step program, resentment inventory prompt, step 1 work. The big books way to be rid of resentment pages 63 67. When the word optional is used in the worksheets, it means that the big book suggests doing this. Resentment in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and 12.

You can create different inventories based on the big book style resentment, fear, sex and harms done. Ask for help with inventory and truth in the morning, night and before writing with a prayer like this one taken from the big book. Thank you god for your help and strength with this resentment. Please read that instruction sheet, follow the instructions, and also read all the references in the big book mentioned in the instructions, and read the big book references on each one of the individual forms. It is not a guide from any rehabilitation center, nor a guide from any person, but rather the a. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves reading. Page 67 of the book, alcoholics anonymous, states, resentment is the number one offender.

Big book sexual inventory page 69 6053 12 steps of aa with father martin chalk talk 5457 is resentment the number one offender. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. Like the four absolutes, the big book resentment inventory generally consists of four columns. Resentment inventory prompt sheet here is a list of people, institutions and principles that may be helpful in your resentment inventory. Critique of chapter 5 of the big book step 4 aa agnostica. These two items cannot be downloaded and must be purchased separately. We will look specifically at resentment inventory because it is the topic that the big book describes in the most detail. This phase of doing a moral inventory of ourselves is the bulk of the work for the rest of the steps. Breaking down step ten of aa alcoholics anonymous jason. May 15, 2016 the fourth step, like the whole of recovery, is a process not an event. Core character defects 4 study from the bottom of page 63 to the end of page 65 and then follow its instructions.

The fourth step, like the whole of recovery, is a process not an event. Since it was a resentment inventory it is likely the authors just substituted self seeking for anger or resentment. Taking a commercial inventory is a factfinding and a factfacing process. Big book of alcoholics anonymous large print or hard cover recommended and the big book awakening workbook. Anger and resentment are the subjects of our 4 th step inventory in the big book. Alcoholics and addicts have typically honed the skill of nursing resentments and finding fault into an art form. Apr 02, 2012 big books detailed fourth step inventory. The big book says that the number one offender is our resentments. Jan 17, 2017 the language and format is taken largely from the big book of alcoholics anonymous. Is it just the examples in book, self esteem, personal, fear, etc. Just list names and dont list why you had the resentment.

This way a sponsor and sponsee can very concisely list the people that were harmed and the exact nature of that harm selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, fear. Download and print out these handy worksheets and use them as you go through the 12 steps with your sponsor. Sep 06, 2016 the step 4 inventory starts by looking at resentment, which the big book describes as the number one offender when it comes to blockage in recovery 64. A typical response to disturbance is to blame our feelings and reactions on other people. The book goes on to outline the moral inventory process of step four and. Jul 18, 2015 big book sexual inventory page 69 6053 12 steps of aa with father martin chalk talk 5457 is resentment the number one offender. Also featuring a comprehensive inventory tool which allows you to create your step 4 and your step 10 inventory. You will need to print several resentment inventory blank sheets, 46 fear inventory grids pick a format you. Fourth step inventory these fourth step worksheets use the wording from alcoholics anonymous the big book pages 6371. Four kinds of moral inventory the national association for. Step four prayer freedom from resentment step 4 of the. Then we resolutely turn our thoughts to someone we can help.

Another tool is the night time inventory as suggested in step 11 of the alcoholics anonymous program. When the word optional is used in the worksheets, it means that the big book suggests doing this but does not suggest writing anything down. Sorting and rendering passages in the proprietary format of the 164 and more concordance does not in any way imply affiliation with or endorsement by either alcoholics. It responds to an act or omission that we see or construe as unjust or unfair, an offense or injury. We provide this study guide based on personal experience to help those following aas 12 steps as outlined in the original big book, alcoholics anonymous aa. The authors start by comparing a personal inventory to a business inventory. If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to be given to. This is also a guide and format for use or application of a. As it says in the big book, when we are disturbed, it is usually because we find some person, place, thing or situation some fact in our lives unacceptable.

Resentment, of course, is any kind of lingering anger the residue of old hurts, disagreements, and frustrations. Big book step study step 4 turnarounds soberrecovery. Resentments, inventory, amends and forgiveness 12stepphilosophy. Go back and list all the names of people, institutions, and principles you have had resentment toward in your life. I cannot tell you how much hearing the first part of the big book has changed me. It is an effort to discover the truth about the stockintrade. The resentment inventory is probably the most wellknown piece of. I listed my resentments on paper, but not necessarily in chronological order.

Learning the process of overcoming resentment literally saves the lives of people who are afflicted with the disease of alcoholism. Chapter five how it works, bottom of page 6371 download here. The 164 and more book, ebook, and web site are all concordances which display passages from the big book alcoholics anonymous, the twelve steps and twelve traditions, and the a. The fear inventory is done in columns like resentments. We put them on paper, even though we had no resentment in connection with them. When the time was right for me, it seemed as if the pen in my hand had a direct connection to my mind, and the memories of a lifetime just poured out onto the page.

Use the back to basics worksheets while you listen to. Step four instructions made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves a stop set aside prayer. Big book sexual inventory page 69 recovery farmhouse. The resentment inventory is probably the most wellknown piece of this step. This steps by the big book workbook is for those who are willing to grow along spiritual lines 60. The fourth column of big book resentment inventory asks inventory writers to examine and describe their own selfishness, dishonesty, selfseeking and fear in relation to each resentment. In the first full paragraph of page 64, they write. As a technique to not miss any fears, then i look at any opposite of the fears i have already listed. I am getting stuck on understanding my turnarounds, especially the selfseeking. Step 4 big book step study step 4 turnarounds hi, im looking for replies from those who have done step 4 exactly as it is written in the big book. Resentment, columns 14, fear, sex, and sexual ideal. This will take you to a page which contains documents as well as links to podcasts which might be helpful to you in your journey.

List fears connected to resentment column four, question 4 and then any fears not connected to resentment heights, spiders, snakes, poverty, aids etc. Alcoholism12 step support 4th step 3r column advice hi, finished 4th step first and second columns. Some biblical connections by dale and juanita ryan pray dear god, part of me does not want to do this inventory work. The big books way to be rid of resentment pages 63 67 instructions. What people, places or things do you resent and what led to those resentments. Twelve steps to live without resentment hazelden betty ford. These sheets are referenced in our big book study audio sessions, so have them printed out and ready to go. Stepwork downloads you will need the following 4 things to get started. You will need to print several resentment inventory blank sheets, 46 fear inventory grids pick a format you like. Origins of moral inventory aa the original way group.

Steps by the big book step 4 resentments steps by the big. Our goal is to study the steps as a friendly, focused group, and work them as the authors of the big book described. According to the big book, selfishness is at the root of the alcoholics troubles, and all of the alcoholics resentment, fear, and sexual problems are. Cover sheet big book awakening 4th step big book awakening san. And we have ceased fighting anything or anyone even alcohol. Session 9 resentment part b inventory step 4 how it works resentment part b turnarounds.